Why Men Who Wouldnt Touch Womens Waists to Get Past Them in a Crowd Deserve Special Respect

The only area that people of both sexes are comfortable letting strangers touch is their hands, according to a study. But women around the world regularly have to deal with unwanted physical interactions and it’s pretty common that women get touched on their waist when someone is trying to get past them in the crowd. Although, for some people, this gesture may not seem like a big deal at first, it actually may be perceived as offensive and intrusive by many women.

Bright Side decided to investigate this delicate matter and explain why we should say thank you to men who acknowledge the rules of etiquette and keep their hands to themselves in public places.

They don’t invade women’s personal space.

Touching another person without their permission is a huge invasion of their personal space. Personal space serves as some kind of invisible layer around us that subconsciously protects us from any visible physical threat. And its invasion may make us feel uncomfortable and unprotected. The waist and the back are 2 very private areas for any woman, when it comes to being touched by strangers.

It seems like men prefer their backs touched, while women prefer their shoulders. Honestly, it all makes a lot of sense to me. Women get touched affectionately on their backs by those they trust. Because of this, it’s jarring for those areas to be touched by strangers. @F0rcie / reddit

They follow the rules of etiquette.

Maneuvering through a crowd with people stepping on your feet may be pretty irritating, but it’s still essential to be polite. Men who don’t try to move people out of their way by grabbing them are aware of the rules of etiquette. They know that they should politely address the person and if that doesn’t work, a friendly tap on the shoulder will probably do the trick.

I don’t understand why it’s so hard for these guys to stop doing this. I’m a woman and when I need to move, I don’t put my hands on anyone’s waist, regardless of gender. I don’t even resort to tapping someone’s shoulder until I really have to. I just scream “excuse me” loud enough to make them jump out the way and that’s always worked well for me. @noahfence2u / reddit

They acknowledge that they can’t touch other people without their consent.

Although the question of touching is sensitive, especially if it seems like there’s no way to avoid it, it’s still better to avoid physical interaction even if there’s no offensive subtext. People of any gender have the right to not want to be touched and they don’t need a specific reason for this. They don’t know the intentions of the stranger, they may have some psychological trauma, or they might just feel uncomfortable when someone touches them.

A shoulder tap or a ‘behind you’ that was loud enough to hear would have been the way to go. The lower back is too intimate for a stranger, in my opinion. Most men really don’t have any idea of how much uninvited touching most women have to deal with, and a lot of us are highly sensitive to it. @widefeetwelcome / reddit

They choose other ways to draw attention to themselves.

Touch is very powerful, but it generates positive emotions and attraction only if a person actually wants to be touched. Inappropriate touching only builds resentment and invokes negative emotions, making a woman feel like a person took advantage of an opportunity to grab her.

I hate how some people just grab your waist to get your attention, instead of tapping you on the shoulder or something. Can someone please explain why some people do this? I don’t know how many times I was on the verge of punching a person as a reaction to this happening. @Cheesus_H_Crust_ / reddit

They understand that this gesture is just not necessary.

Men who avoid touching women’s waists understand that there are numerous ways to attract a person’s attention and touching the private zones on their body is definitely not the best way to go about this. They try to put themselves into a woman’s shoes to figure out whether they’d want anybody to treat them this way.

If it’s a stranger and it’s so noisy at a bar that you didn’t hear me say, “Excuse me,” I always give a gentle tap on the shoulder, or between the shoulder blades, man or woman. Then, when I’ve got their attention, I just say, “Excuse me” and slip past. I imagine that guys who are grabbing women by the waists or hips are trying to get their attention for something else, cause I can’t imagine why that would be okay or normal for any other reason. @Justwant2watchitburn / reddit

Do you think that it’s acceptable to touch people when you need to get past them in a crowd? How do you usually react to people who try to touch you?